Let’s be honest—dirty talk can feel awkward AF… until it doesn’t.
Whether you’re whispering sweet filth during foreplay or sending a scandalous voice note before dinner, verbal foreplay can take sex from hot to full-on molten in seconds. The only thing stopping most people? Feeling a bit ridiculous at first.
So, let’s get into it. Here's your beginner-friendly guide to talking dirty without cringing, freezing, or sounding like you’re auditioning for a bad soap opera.
Why Dirty Talk Works
Our brains are our biggest sex organs. (Yes, even bigger than that 👀)
When you talk dirty, you’re:
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Creating anticipation
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Building intimacy
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Giving direction and feedback
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Triggering fantasies
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Giving them a mental image they’ll replay all day
Basically, you're giving their imagination a full-on orgasm before you even touch them.
Tips to Get Started Without Feeling Weird
🫢 Start with reactions
If full sentences feel like too much, try:
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“That feels so good…”
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“I love when you do that.”
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“Don’t stop.”
Even breathy moans and whispered gasps count. It’s not a script—it’s a vibe.
💬 Narrate what’s happening (or what you want)
Try lines like:
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“I want your hands right here.”
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“You’re so wet/hard for me.”
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“Keep going, just like that.”
Confidence grows when you focus on the moment.
📝 Practice outside the bedroom
Yes, really. Send a spicy text. Leave a voice note. Write down a fantasy. Dirty talk isn’t just for the bedroom—it’s a whole-day tease if you do it right.
What If You Still Feel Shy?
Totally normal. Start small, whisper it in their ear, or even keep the lights off the first few times. You can also use dirty talk as part of a power dynamic—for example, saying “good girl” or “tell me what you want” can ease the pressure and heat things up.
And if you're a sub? Don’t be afraid to beg a little. Or a lot. 😈
Q&A: Dirty Talk Edition
Q: What if I say something awkward?
A: Laugh it off. Seriously. Sex is fun and messy and not always perfect. A giggle can be just as intimate as a moan.
Q: Is it okay to plan what I’ll say?
A: Absolutely. Have a little go-to phrase ready in your back pocket. You’re not writing a monologue—you’re setting the mood.
Q: What if I don’t know what my partner likes to hear?
A: Ask. Or watch how they react to different things. Dirty talk is very personal—what turns one person on might not work for someone else. Explore together.
Dirty talk isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present. About sharing the moment with words as much as touch. Once you get past the awkward stage, it becomes one of the sexiest tools you’ll ever have.
So next time? Open your mouth. Say what you're thinking. And let them feel it.
From all of us at My Devilish Desires
Be loud. Be filthy. Be fabulous.
Your voice is your power—use it. 💋