Ever wondered what your BDSM style is? Maybe you’ve dabbled in fantasies, tried a blindfold once, or just can’t stop thinking about being in control - or being totally at someone else’s mercy. Whatever side of the kinky fence you sit on (or straddle), it might be time to find out.
And with International BDSM Day landing on 24th July, there’s no better excuse to explore your desires, safely and confidently.
So... Are You a Dom, Sub,![]()
Switch — or Something Else Entirely?
Let’s break it down.
You don’t need a label to enjoy kink, but understanding where you naturally lean can help make your experiences more exciting - and more fulfilling.
The Dominant 💼
You thrive on control. Whether it's giving commands, taking charge, or tying someone up, you like calling the shots.
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Try: collars, leashes, gags, or dominant sex toys that put power in your hands.
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Tip: It’s not about being aggressive - it’s about being intentional. Confidence is sexy. Consent is essential.
The Submissive 🕊️
You love the surrender. You find pleasure in being guided, restrained, or teased—but always within your limits.
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Try: submission toys, soft restraints, blindfolds, or spreader bars for light control.
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Tip: Subbing is powerful too. Giving someone control is one of the most intimate acts around.
The Switch 🔄
You like both sides. One night you’re taking control, the next you’re handing it over. It’s all about mood, connection, and curiosity.
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Try: BDSM kits with variety - think restraints, floggers, blindfolds, and roleplay items in one.
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Tip: Communicate clearly before each scene. What worked last time may flip this time.
How to Explore BDSM Safely (And Without Feeling Awkward)
Whether you’re a curious newbie or a shy switch-in-training, here’s your simple guide to getting started:
1. Talk First. Play Later.
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Share your interests and hard limits with your partner (or write them down).
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Not sure what you want? Try the “Yes / No / Maybe” game to explore safely.
2. Start Small
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You don’t need a dungeon. Try a beginner BDSM kit, feather tickler, or adjustable cuffs for your first taste.
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Skip the heavy gear and go for soft bondage or sensory play toys if you're nervous.
3. Use a Safe Word
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Yes, even if you're “just trying it.” A safe word lets you stop everything instantly—no questions asked.
4. Check In After
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Aftercare matters. Cuddling, talking, and checking in emotionally helps you both feel secure and connected.
Toy Talk: What to Try Based on Your Style
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Style |
Toy Ideas |
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Dominant |
Collar and leash set, paddle, spreader bar, control-style gags |
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Submissive |
Restraints, blindfolds for sex, beginner rope play, submission kits |
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Switch |
BDSM starter kits, sensory toys, impact play tools, dom/sub sets |
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Not Sure? |
Try light bondage toys and build up confidence - go slow and explore |
PS: From 1–31 July, get 15% OFF all bondage under £50 and 20% OFF on everything over £50. Just sayin’. 🖤
Q&A: BDSM Curiosity Edition
Q: Is BDSM only about pain?
Nope! BDSM includes a huge range of play—from teasing to tickling, from light spanking to total power exchange. You get to choose what feels good.
Q: What if I try something and don’t like it?
That’s totally normal. Trying kink is like trying food—you’re allowed to sample, dislike, and move on. Keep talking, keep learning.
Q: Do I have to be “experienced” to be dominant?
Not at all. Dominance is about trust, confidence, and communication—not experience. You grow into it.
Q: Where should I start if I’m nervous?
Start with soft bondage or sensory toys like blindfolds and feather ticklers. Take your time. It’s meant to be fun.
BDSM isn’t about being someone else’s fantasy - it’s about discovering your own.
Whether you're teasing with a tie or diving into domination, you deserve a safe, sexy, and empowering experience.
So…
🖤 Want to explore?
🖤 Want to tease and be teased?
🖤 Want to finally understand what you like, not what porn tells you to?
Good. Because your BDSM journey starts with one thing: curiosity.
Now go find your style - and have a little fun getting there.