So you’re fantasising about a third (or fourth… or fifth 👀)? You're not alone. Group sex is one of the most commonly searched fantasies—and for some, it stays a fantasy. For others? It becomes a very real (and very hot) adventure.
Whether you're curious about adding another person to the mix, heading to a sex party, or you and your partner are just in the "what if…" stage, let’s talk about what actually goes into a threesome or moresome.
Because group play isn’t just about having more bodies—it’s about having more communication, more intention, and more pleasure (if you do it right).
Why Do People Want Threesomes?
Honestly? So many reasons:
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A new dynamic = fresh energy
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Watching your partner get pleasure (hello, compersion kink)
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Being the center of attention
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Exploring bisexuality or curiosity
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Fulfilling a long-time fantasy
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Just… because you can
It doesn’t have to mean anything deep—it can just be a sexy, mutual experience. But the key word there? Mutual.
Thinking of Trying It? Here’s Where to Start:
1. Talk First. Fantasise Second.
Before you go hunting for a third, check in with your current partner (if you have one).
What are your boundaries? Jealousy triggers? No-go zones?
Turn it into a fantasy conversation. If you both leave that convo excited—not anxious—you’re on the right path.
2. Figure Out the “Who”
Some want to find a stranger. Some prefer a friend. Some go to curated events.
Wherever you meet your third (or fourth), make sure everyone knows the vibe, the expectations, and that consent is 100% clear.
3. Use the Rule of Three: Talk, Touch, Check-In
🗣️ Talk beforehand.
✋ Touch with consent.
👀 Check in often—before, during, after.
Even something as simple as “How are you feeling?” mid-play can make everyone feel safe and sexy.
4. Don’t Forget Protection
More bodies = more variables. Use condoms, dental dams, and keep extra lube on hand (trust us). STIs don’t care how good the chemistry is—wrap it up and play smart.
Q&A: Threesome + Moresome Edition
Q: Is it weird to feel nervous before?
A: Not at all. First-time nerves are normal. Communicate openly and remind yourself: you’re doing this for fun, not pressure.
Q: What if I get jealous?
A: Totally valid. Talk about your feelings before and after. Boundaries are your best friend—use them.
Q: Do we need a safe word or signal?
A: 100% yes. A tap, a phrase, or a look—whatever works. Make sure you can pause the action at any time, no drama.
Q: Should we plan every detail, or just go with the flow?
A: A little bit of both. Know what everyone wants and doesn’t want, but let the fun happen naturally. Overplanning can kill the vibe—but no plan at all? Risky.
Whether it’s a wild night or a tender exploration, group sex is about connection, consent, and communication. It can be playful, messy, passionate, awkward, and totally unforgettable.
So if a threesome (or moresome) is on your radar—go slow, go smart, and go with intention. Fantasy is fun… but reality can be even hotter when you do it right.
From all of us at My Devilish Desires
No matter how many bodies are in the room, the most important things are respect, consent, and pleasure. Explore what excites you—and don’t forget to stock up on lube. 😏